We have this misguided notion that we can change people. We believe it is a noble cause…we are the righteous ones that are here to correct the errors of others. If we can just make people see the same way we see things, then everything would be just fine. Our friends would always call us back in a timely manner, politicians wouldn’t lie, our dog wouldn’t hate us, and the neighbors would stop staring at us (or is that just paranoia?).
You can’t change others but you can accept them. You can accept them for who they are and how they act whether it is good or bad. Once you accept them for who they are, you can change how you interact with them. You can accept their behavior in a way that is beneficial for your own sanity.
In reality, we are utter fools for wasting our time on trying to change others. People will not change unless they want to change. You can try to tell people how they should live their lives and what they need to do to make their life better, but they won’t do any of it. Sure, go ahead and talk to them until you are blue in the face, they won’t change until they want to make the change.
So sit back, enjoy a frosty beverage of your choice, and relax. Embrace the concept of acceptance. Modify your thought process and teach yourself that is OK not to be the overbearing, control freak you want to be.
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This is something that every woman should read on her wedding night.